Human Manipulative Tendencies.

Natural tendencies in human nature.

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Humans are naturally the most deceptive of all the species created by God. Humans will naturally dance to the tune of your of the music of your existence when they realize that they will secure a fat cheque of friendship from you. Among humans, especially Nigerians, friends and relatives will attach themselves to you when they see and sense that you are fat and flourishing.

However, when it becomes obvious to all and sundry that you may just be an empty barrel which makes the loudest noise, these same friends and relatives will desert you utterly and will reduce their activities to mere ‘well wishing’ and will avoid you like a plaque.

There was a particular time in my life when a lady which I will call Cynthia became a part of it. This happened a few weeks to COVID 19. Fortunately for me, during the pandemic, we were staying in a bungalow that served as our hostel and were door to door neighbors. During this time, she was very supportive both financially and in the kitchen department.

However, the pandemic ended and we parted ways. But many years later fate brought us together again and she stylishly penetrated my defences by using what I love as a bait to entice me into continuing our friendship. I happen to be a readaholic and a geek at that. She gained access to my personal space through showering me with novels from all walks of life and various spiritual literatures by globally accomplished writers with proofs. Therefore I was successfully seduced and was literally swept off my feet.

But along the line, our relationship got sour and the emotional juice I use to derive from her presence took a complete flight. This was due to a day she called me on phone and informed me that she was admitted at the hospital due to a particular illness and asked me to give her a particular sum which I refused. This led to her ending the call on me.

The next time we spoke, she told me to lend her the sum of five thousand naira so she could use to attend to pressing issues. But I informed her that I was actually penniless but she was insistent and even had the guts to suggest that I borrow that amount from someone and inturn lend it to her. i.e borrowing Peter to borrow Paul. Can you imagine the nonsense? At this point I felt totally manipulated. This was due to the fact that if I had borrowed that amount and gave to her, she may have in turn refuse to pay and might have even gone to the extent of blocking me on her social media accounts. She might even go further and block me from calling her directly through her mobile number. My outright refusal to lend her that sum destroyed the remaining strand of friendship that was clubbing us together. It removed the wool from my eyes which helped me see her in a different light i.e through her smoke screen as a person.

I was completely delivered from the clutches of her wagon of manipulation which made me lost temporarily to the rhythms of time.

Mind you, she is just one out of a long list of others who may have manipulated me successfully in the past or who tried manipulating me while I was dwelling in the valley of naivete.

Humans are the only species created by God who will see your sincerity, good heart and beautiful intentions as leverage to manipulate, step on and even to the extent of dumping you on the way to their desired goal.

This is not in any way limited to any external relationships outside marriage. Unfortunately, have been privilege to see first hand men who chased a fledgling career woman with the intention of settling down with her. But once their goal was achieved, they revert into their original state which was characterised by wife beating, potential caging, destroying her feminine charm and influence. They grow jealous of their wives growth, and aim to bring them down from the rungs of the ladder of influence in society within the echelons of their profession.

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You see men who once appeared to be nurturers and groomers settling down and becoming the reason why an ambitious woman Is reduced to mere full time housewifery whose sole responsibility in the house is to produce offsprings for the propagation of the husband's lineage. They are also mandated both by the vices of society to man the kitchen at all times for delicious cuisines that will only satisfy his ego without stimulating her drive for greater success.

Man is the greatest manipulation of other men amongst all the creatures created by God.

It is a shame that men are the reasons other men don't rise, not just in Africa but across various places in the globe.

There is a need for change.

There is a need for salvation.

The heart of Man must be salvaged and reconfigured by the glorious gospel seen and given by the Cross. “The heart of Man is desperately wicked, who can know it.”

Let's learn to love others genuinely in spirit and in truth without the intention of destroying another with the selfish intention of seeing us rise alone.

If we can do this, the world will become a much more better place for all and sundry classes of humans, to live a fulfilling and purpose oriented life, according to the origin design of the Creator for the human race.

Selah.