REACHING OUT

The art of being more deliberate about checking up on others.

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In this highly technically driven world, the tendency to forget your bosom buddies seems even more alluring than ever, therefore when a friend of yours who is very dear walks into the very chambers of your heart, try to reach out to them as quickly as you can before you are swallowed up in the quagmire of daily activities.

Reaching out to others now is even much more easier than in the 90’s; you could enter a person's DM on their Whatsapp and say “Hi, it's been long I heard from you?”, “how is your end of the world?” and “how are you holding up?”, “I just thought of you and decided to reach out, your ambience and effervescent personality just seemed to invade my personal space in such a suffocating manner”.

Reaching out like this doesn't make you appear weak and vulnerable to others but a sign that you genuinely care. Doing this immediately it comes to mind is important because once this is missed, you may never remember that particular person till let's say In three month’s interval.

So you should try checking up on people who are dear to you even when the circumstances surrounding it don't seem to encourage it at that time. Try checking up on people because you never know the last time you may see them on the earth.

And one thing you should try to avoid as much as possible as an individual is the tendency to see and ignore people's messages.

Ignoring people's messages doesn't make you superior in any way to them and it may even give people the impression that you are being unnecessarily lofty and not sensitive to their desire to reach out and connect with you on a personally deep level. I know you may be genuinely busy and caught up with productive activities in your own life but always try to reply or answer those who, out of their busy schedule, tried to reach out to you.

Showing love to those we care genuinely about is very easy, all you need to do is just reach out to them via call, text or something as simple as entering their DM, you can reach out to them as well by going for a brief visit if they stay around your neighborhood.

Reaching out to others is spiced up by the genuine desire to reignite old sparks reawakened by the memories we shared and built with a particular person during our younger years together which appears so fleeting in our eyes now or from the few times we were privileged to spend together.

Mind you, you don't have to spend all the time in the world with a person to understand them, rather you do when you are sensitive to the subtle gestures they give out when you guys are out spending time together as guys or babes. One thing people do these days that hurt others so much is the fact that you checked a message sent by a friend and decided that you will reply later when you have something more relatable to say but only for you to completely forget that you haven't replied to their message. A friend of mine said she thought she has responded to my message mentally without even realizing she hasn't.However, if this is isn't deliberate on your part, make sure you turn a new leaf because you may be hurting your friend without even realizing it.

Thank you for your precious time.